Seven things I learnt late in life
- Love everybody and trust no one.
I am too trusting and because of this, a lot of my friends use this against me. I don’t lie to my friends. I always tell them the truth because of this, I expect them to do the same to me. I trust people so much that I don’t doubt whatever they tell me. This stupid trust had put me so much in trouble that it was only God that saved me from the problems. Just a few years ago I now developed the principle; love everybody and trust no one. Even with this principle, I was still scammed recently by friends I trust.
- Friends are not forever.
Don’t kill yourself because of any friends. They are here today and not there tomorrow. Think of the best friends you have in school that you thought you would still be close. Things of this world separated you, and you are no more together. Even when you look everywhere for him/her and you finally meet them on Facebook, the sparks are not anymore there. You might phone each other, chat and talk for some time but after a while, the relationship will turn cold. Friends are like the people you are going on a journey with you on a train. Some will get down at different stations. It might be only one or two that will be with you at the end of the journey.
- Don’t always take the words of your pastors or spiritual leaders hook line and sinker.
If you are a Christian be a noble one, read your bible to check if what the pastor is teaching you correspond to what is in the bible. If you are a Muslim, read your Quran. Pastors are humans; they make the mistake, and they can teach what they think the Bible is saying whereas the Bible is saying a different thing. And they might be convinced of a doctrine now and change it later. There was a time I wanted to be a celibate when I listened to Pastor Carlton Pearson message on “The Joy of been Single.” For two years, I was a celibate and wanted to be like him and Paul, who never married. I was flipping through a Christian magazine one day, and I saw the man of God and his beautiful wife. You know the end of the story.
- Don’t ever expect the reward for what you do for people. The way you treat people is not the way they will treat you back. Because you do things for people free of charge does not mean when they want to do things for you, they will not charge you for it. I have developed website for friends pro bono and when I need their services, they billed me. So whatever you are doing for people don’t expect to be rewarded with the same measure, by this you will not be disappointed.
- Don’t impress anyone.
Never live your life to impress anybody. Live your life to please yourself and God your maker. Don’t go and buy things you don’t need to impress the people who hate you. Even when you try all, you can to impress them, they will still talk bad about you.
- Never Complain about your you permit.
This is my principle, I learnt from Mike Murdock. It has made my life easier. I not at any time complain about anything. If I permit something in my life, I will never complain about it. A lot of people come to me complaining about their jobs, relationship and almost everything. I always tell them to stop complaining because they permitted it. If you are not finding joy in your job, resign. If you are complaining about your pastor, leave the church. If you are complaining about your boyfriend leave him. I always tell them they are talking to the wrong person. Talk to the person giving you problem, not me.
- 90% of people I encounter every day are backbiters.
People cannot seat and have a normal conversation without back-biting. It always starts like this.
“ Are you hearing from your friend?”
“It has been a long time.”
“Did you know he did this and that to me?”
Then they will start from one person to the other.
I am always angry about this, and I constantly defend the person they are talking about. And people that gossip about other people before you do the same about you when you are not there.
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